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Courtship and marriage

--The famous Dr. Miller, in a lecture on the above interesting subjects, recently delivered in Birmingham England, defines falling in love into two methods, which he calls proper and improper.

Falling into love proper was falling into love when one could not help it; in other words, love at first sight. Love improper was defined as the case of a man who looked about for a wife because he wanted one; and the lecturer pointed out the distinction between the man who wants to marry because he has fallen in love, and another who falls in love because he wants to marry. From whatever motive marriage was contracted, it was a most serious step. There was an old saying, and a true one, withal, that no man was thoroughly ruined unless he were badly married. As regards finesse for the marriage relation, the lecturer believed that a woman who was wise enough to understand. ‘"Butler's Analogy,"’ and housewife enough to cook an apple dumping was fit to become a wife. The doctor was of opinion that there was not much need for young folks to wait until they got comparatively rich before they married, but contended that they would be improved by having a few difficulties to contend with now and in the outset of life. As for the great obedience question," he rested on the philosophy contained in the following quaint epitaph, placed many years ago over the graves of a husband and wife, who had lived a long and happy life on a system of mutual obedience:

‘ "They too were so one that upon could truly say
Which ruled, or whether did d ;
Be because she would obey,
And she, is so obeying, ruled as well as he."

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